The Love Letter


I am half way through writing a romantic novel. I wrote this piece, a love letter from the main male character to his lover, and for one reason or another, I have referenced this several times recently in various conversations about masculine and feminine energies, and I just thought it was about time I posted it here.

These days, many people are too lost in looks, image and ‘what can I get’. A loving relationship is about so much more, it’s about ‘what can I give of myself, who can I become, in the expression of my feelings, what do I have to share’.

 

The Love Letter

I ask nothing of you but love. I have no long list of conditions to be met, things that must be done, no list of changes I would make to you, no ‘laundry list’ of ways I’d like you to change, or things I’d like you to do. I don’t want or need a ‘little woman’ to cook my meals or wash my clothes or clean my house. I do not need a domestic helper, I want a best friend. I don’t need a cook, I want a soul mate. I don’t need someone to clean my bathroom, I want someone to awaken my mind, stimulate my senses and engage with my passions. Life isn’t about a big house or a fast car or a handful of possessions, life is about the people we share our time on this wonderful Earth with, life is about the connections we make, the love we share, the lives we touch and the people who touch us. Life isn’t about a widescreen TV and a BMW, it’s about who you remember fondly in the last hours of your fading life, it’s about who you cried over losing, and who cried over losing you, it’s about the hands you’ve held, the lives you touched, the souls you helped and the hope and smiles you gave.  Continue reading

The Greatest Gifts

The Greatest Gifts


The greatest gifts you could possibly enjoy in your life:

  • Good health, ‘2 of everything’, full mobility, the energy to get out of bed in the morning and stand on your own two feet and open your eyes and see
  • Freedom from political or military oppression. This post appears on WordPress and Facebook. If you are on WordPress or Facebook, then you almost certainly live in a modern Western society that allows you to go where you like, say what you like, and do almost (within reason) anything you please
  • Someone loves you. Likely, many people do. You live in a society that largely accepts our differences and preferences, and everybody is loved by somebody. The worst of human bigotry (slavery, mass racial segregation, etc.) is moving from ‘current affairs’ into the history books. (Russia, please pay attention to this point…bigotry = out of date people. 1luvx)
  • You are reading this online – therefore, you have money, a computer, electricity, and by extension, you almost certainly have clean running drinking water, heating, a roof over your head, a bed to sleep in, electric lights, a flushing toilet and hot water
  • You are reading this, therefore you have FREE TIME
  • If you the time and resources for WordPress or Facebook, then you clearly do not live in abject poverty. You likely eat a minimum of twice daily, and you likely enjoy clean clothes, probably a car, consumer electronics and other life-enhancing conveniences
  • These gifts: health, wealth, free time, political freedom, energy, food in your belly, a shirt on your back and love in your heart, are simply the MOST INCREDIBLE gifts you could ever imagine having.

 

Do you think I’m wrong? Try living a life without a few of these gifts and you’ll gain a new sense of perspective.

Every day, I see people online, and in life in general, who never stop complaining about their lives. I just want to scream at these people to wake the fuck up and show some appreciation for what they HAVE, and stop focussing on what they HAVE NOT.

Apathy and a sense of entitlement are massive modern day killers.

READ THAT AGAIN. Apathy and a sense of entitlement are massive modern day killers.

The world owes you NOTHING, and if you read the list above and thought “Yeah, I have all that” then QUIT COMPLAINING about your life and celebrate, you are the envy of 50% of the human race = 3 BILLION people WISH THEY HAD YOUR LIFE!!!

Your life is a GIFT, awash with splendour, opportunity and wonder. Get that in to your head and ACT LIKE YOU ARE HAPPY ABOUT IT.

You get just ONE life, use it or lose it. And stop complaining about the weather, the tube strike, the rain, the tax man, the government, politicians, the education system, the railways, the roads, the hospitals, the health care system, doctors, teachers, your spouse, your neighbour, your boss, your kids, the price of food, the cost of holidays (you actually GET a holiday FFS!) and a million other things. You have a JOB, you have an INCOME, you are fit enough to go to work or school every day = BE GRATEFUL.

Instead of moaning about the world, if there is something you think COULD be better, use you untapped talents to GO CHANGE IT. Don’t moan that others don’t do it well enough – step the hell up and show us all how it could be done. If YOU ain’t making a change and doing your best, don’t criticise the efforts others are making to contribute to this world. Screw apathy – get up in the morning and BE YOUR BEST, and make this world better with your love, your drive, your positive energy, your good ideas and your passion.

Peace. 1luvx

Love, Sex and Monogamy in Paleolithic times and Today


I have been reading ‘Paleofantasy’ by Marlene Zuk.

She discusses what she terms “paleofantasy love” and she quotes Sarah B. Hrdy and the ‘sex contract’ hypothesis.

Meat for sexual fidelity: the sex contract hypothesis

Hrdy and others suggest that our ancient ancestors traded ‘meat for fidelity’, and this forms the core of the ‘sex contract’ hypothesis. Note: to be fair to Ms Hrdy, I have NOT read her original work, and I am basing any judgements in this blog on the quotes in Marlene Zuk’s Paleofantasy. The notion goes, that as our large brains grew, caveman became smart enough to realise that his best chances of producing offspring that reach adulthood was to provide for his woman while she nurtured the babies, so he hunted the meat, while cave woman sat at home tending the babies, and she gave him sexual fidelity in return for him bringing home food for his kin.

In my uneducated opinion, this is wrong.

I see it this way.

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If you could go back in time to when you were a teenager, what advice would you give the teenage you?


Someone posed this question to me “If you could go back in time to when you were a teenager, what advice would you give the teenage you?”

I answered like this:

  • Dream big, bigger, massive!
  • Believe in myself
  • Give up worthlessness, drop the low self-opinion, lose the low self-esteem, learn to love myself
  • Know my own abilities, and strive constantly for more
  • Invest in my own education, constantly
  • Learn, grow, be incredible….
  • Spend less time drunk
  • Exercise every day of my life
  • Don’t smoke
  • Don’t eat junk food
  • Read. Study. Learn from people I admire. Connect with influential people. Pick awesome role models
  • Start my own company(s) early in life
  • Set high standards, for my friends, my career, my goals and dreams, but mostly for myself
  • Save 10% of every penny I earn from day one and invest it in property and stocks
  • Work hard
  • Aim high
  • Don’t waste a day, they are ALL so precious
  • Love passionately and ceaselessly, believe in true love
  • Give generously
  • Travel extensively
  • Live with passion, energy, intrigue and desire
  • Invest in property as young as possible
  • Keep searching, keep questioning
  • Never, ever, ever give up

 

Understanding Our Individual Belief Systems


Blame the parents…

Each of us is raised to adulthood with a certain view of the world ‘programmed’ into us. I appreciate that for some people, their upbringing is different, less conventional, but please allow me to generalize, and assume that for the vast majority of us, our primary influences in young life are our parents. Our parents and other members of our immediate family, closest friends and neighbours, teachers and classmates, are the people who help us to form our view of the world, and for most people, our parents are by far the most influential players in this game.

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