Love, Sex and Monogamy in Paleolithic times and Today


I have been reading ‘Paleofantasy’ by Marlene Zuk.

She discusses what she terms “paleofantasy love” and she quotes Sarah B. Hrdy and the ‘sex contract’ hypothesis.

Meat for sexual fidelity: the sex contract hypothesis

Hrdy and others suggest that our ancient ancestors traded ‘meat for fidelity’, and this forms the core of the ‘sex contract’ hypothesis. Note: to be fair to Ms Hrdy, I have NOT read her original work, and I am basing any judgements in this blog on the quotes in Marlene Zuk’s Paleofantasy. The notion goes, that as our large brains grew, caveman became smart enough to realise that his best chances of producing offspring that reach adulthood was to provide for his woman while she nurtured the babies, so he hunted the meat, while cave woman sat at home tending the babies, and she gave him sexual fidelity in return for him bringing home food for his kin.

In my uneducated opinion, this is wrong.

I see it this way.

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If you could go back in time to when you were a teenager, what advice would you give the teenage you?


Someone posed this question to me “If you could go back in time to when you were a teenager, what advice would you give the teenage you?”

I answered like this:

  • Dream big, bigger, massive!
  • Believe in myself
  • Give up worthlessness, drop the low self-opinion, lose the low self-esteem, learn to love myself
  • Know my own abilities, and strive constantly for more
  • Invest in my own education, constantly
  • Learn, grow, be incredible….
  • Spend less time drunk
  • Exercise every day of my life
  • Don’t smoke
  • Don’t eat junk food
  • Read. Study. Learn from people I admire. Connect with influential people. Pick awesome role models
  • Start my own company(s) early in life
  • Set high standards, for my friends, my career, my goals and dreams, but mostly for myself
  • Save 10% of every penny I earn from day one and invest it in property and stocks
  • Work hard
  • Aim high
  • Don’t waste a day, they are ALL so precious
  • Love passionately and ceaselessly, believe in true love
  • Give generously
  • Travel extensively
  • Live with passion, energy, intrigue and desire
  • Invest in property as young as possible
  • Keep searching, keep questioning
  • Never, ever, ever give up

 

Doing Nothing is a Backward Step

Doing Nothing is a Backward Step


A friend reminded me of this line of thought yesterday, so I thought I would blog about this today. My friend lamented that he had previously worked hard for 10 months to improve his physical conditioning, but then just 3 months of taking his eye off the ball and all his hard work was lost.

Let me give you an analogy that might resonate with some of you. This is a running story, and I wrote this for a business book I published back in 2009, but it is very relevant to diet and exercise and how we treat our health and our bodies in general.

If it feels good to run, keep on running.

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Focus on what really matters.


If we accept that the broad purpose of ‘charity’ at a worldwide scale, is to save lives and reduce pain and suffering, then we are at a time when we need to drastically reconsider how we are directing the help we give.

As we approach the end of 2012, there are approximately 905 million undernourished people on the planet. That number is slowly shrinking, by approximately 1 person every 5 seconds. That’s 6 million less starving people every year. If we continue at that pace, and if global warming, changing climate patterns and fossil fuel shortages don’t cause any new problems greater than they already create today, then in 150 years there will be no more starving people on this planet.

But, right here, right now, in 2012, worldwide 10.7 million people will have died of hunger this year.

There are also 1,567 million overweight people on the planet. 522 million of them are obese. Yes, there are more than half a BILLION obese people on Earth. Continue reading